Birthday parties are always fun aren't they??  Even as the planner, they can be a trip back into memory lane! I loved legos growing up and I am thrilled my daughter enjoys them as much as I did.  The one thing I love that she has though is a "girl" version of the legos.  They are so cute!  Even their hair and outfits are adorable!

For her birthday she decided she wanted a lego friends birthday party!  So I did what any simple mom would do...I scanned Pinterest!  And of course found some amazing ideas.  There were a few we did on our own.  But, the pictures speak for all the fun we had!


I found a wonderful lady on etsy to make the invitations and the thank you notes!  Unfortunately, her shop is no longer available, otherwise I would link you there!  But there are plenty of other great ideas there!  They simply customized it for my daughter and I printed them out myself with the download they provided!  So cute and simple!


Besides some delicious food meant for friends!  The girls made hair clips out of four dot lego bricks (we chose white, pink and purple) then I hot glued them on some clips found at Hobby Lobby.  I found little flower pieces, or butterflies, whatever small pieces I could find (mostly leftovers from kits we had bought) and put them in containers, and each girl designed 2 of their own hair clips.  The bows I made by hand with a simple single lego in each of the centers.  At the end of the party each girl got to pick out their own hair bow to put in their lego party bag.

The food was simple too...pink and purple cupcakes, and lego shaped krispy treats using Easter colored M&Ms.

We watched a Lego Friends short video, opened presents and then played Lego Friends Bingo provided by another Etsy friend who custom made this as well!  Click Here is her shop she has more bingo themed ideas!

The girls had a blast!  It was all at home, not too much work, and didn't break the bank!

It doesn't have to be a birthday to enjoy some of these activities! Invite some friends over and just do one of them!

Some people think all I do is talk about health and wellness...well, sometimes I do, but part of being well is also filling your time up with things you love.  There is a lot I love about summer, the pool, spending time with the kids, family vacations...list continues.  BUT...what I really enjoy is my summer projects.  I lay out these projects each summer for a chance for me to GROW personally.  This summer I have several things on that list but one of them was making summer dresses for my daughter.

Both of my grandmother's sewed.  One sewed in a factory for a living.  And, I was SO blessed that both taught me how to sew!  I pulled out my sewing machine, dusted it off, went shopping for fabric and created a few fun dresses for my daughter to play in.

Here are some pictures.  I added adjustable straps at the top for her comfort.

I had a blast!!  And...completed a summer project!  Do you have summer projects?  If so, what are your they?

Our little life got flipped upside down about a month and a half ago.  It hasn't really been too comfortable with our house being on the market for so long.  We were the family who couldn't have too many family pictures up for fear of looking to "personal" in our home.  But, at the point you put your house on the market, it really isn't your home any more.  You have to disconnect emotionally from it.  I did that about 2 1/2 years ago so when moving time came, it was actually pretty easy to give the keys over.  The house had tons of great memories, ones that I have shared in more ways than one.

But...now we have closed on our house and are living with family and friends while we build a house!  Yes, I said build.  After tons and tons of searching, we finally landed on a property that we felt peace about.  It resides in a quaint section of Fort Mill, SC right next to the strawberry fields.  For those that know me, know I am a city girl through and through.  I would live in the high rise if we didn't have kids!  This however is a great compromise as it backs right up to the city!

This is also one of the reasons I haven't written in SO long.  Our family is in a a serious transition state.  The one where sometimes time can't seem to go fast enough so that it can be over.  However, God is really doing a good work in me during this time.  Here are some things I am learning:

1.  Pray a lot!  And...I don't mean just a lot, I mean a LOT!  For everything!
2.  Be patient!  With the people you are around, your husband, your kids.
3.  Learn to live with just the basics!  Most of our "stuff" is in storage, and guess what??  Our kids are still happy!!
4.  Spend quality time with one another.
5.  Go on vacation.
6.  Rely on your friends!!
7.  Weed out bad friends who don't understand your particular situation.
8.  LOVE on each other!
9.  Serve others!
10.  Find some time somewhere where you can have some alone time.

For me, these 10 things are getting me through this 8-9mos. moving journey!  I will do my best to do a better job at posting pictures of the progress on our house.

Our property

My sweet girl...my have you grown.  In just five short years you started out in my heart with this complex love I totally didn't understand (How could I?  I was a new mom), but it was a deep love that started at your birth and only grows deeper each day God gives me with you!  You, Paige are this amazing gift!  It has been the biggest joy to both me and your dad to watch your personality blossom into this wonderful little girl.

As I was rummaging through pictures, it is amazing how somethings are the same with you...you are so hilariously silly!  You absolutely love to make people laugh, smile and bring joy.  Well...you bring a sense of joy when you walk in the room.  You are so loving to people...doesn't matter who they are.  You share, you give of yourself, and you are such a servant.

I read a blog from a mom, just like myself and she made a list of things that she wants to teach her daughter.  I want to do the same for you.  So, besides presents this year...I want to give this to you as a gift.  As a promise that during the time that I have you in my life, I hope to teach you these things.  Some maybe similar to hers as I love how she put things.  And...they are in no particular order.  Happy, Happy Birthday sweet girl.  She did 100, I did 50...I'm sure I will add as the years go on.  This is a start.

1.  Beauty is a state of mind, and a state of the heart, not a state of the body.
2.  Loving your friends where they are is one of the best gifts you can give a friend.
3.  "There will always be mean girls.  But that doesn't mean we find a tower and Rapunzel ourselves away from the world."
4.  Your daddy has loved you so well.  Use that love as an example when you start to like boys!
5.  Your brother and daddy will teach you how boys should treat you.
6.  You are always welcome in my closet.
7.  The world needs your point of view.
8.  Food should be fuel for your body to do great things.
9.  Your body is capable of doing so much more than you can imagine right now.
10.  Do things because you love to do them, not because someone said you were meant to do them.
11.  Pray.  As much as you can.  Communicating with the almighty God is more powerful than you think.
12.  Dance...even at odd times...it makes all mundane tasks seem more fun.
13.  You will never be too old for me to rock, hug, or snuggle!
14.  The world needs your story!
15.  No prayer request is ever to small, to silly, or too embarrassing to share.
16.  Your family are your teammates...God has brought us together for a reason, and we stick together.
17.  Blue eyes really do melt hearts.
18.  Home is not where we live, but who we love.
19.  Your name was chosen for a reason and hold special meaning to us.
20.  Inevitably, I will disappoint you, but we will work it out together.
21.  Reading books to you, with you, or for yourself is never time wasted.
22.  The best way to never worry about people gossiping about you is to not gossip about anyone else.
23.  Saying sorry first is a sign of strength, not weakness.
24.  I'm on your side, especially when it doesn't feel like it.
25.  "Your body is not just yours.  It is a gift to your husband.  I promise, it is a gift worth unwrapping together."
26. Marriage is an act of courage, commitment, a ton of selflessness, and sacrifice.  But it is the most fun and fulfilling relationships you will ever have the pleasure to enjoy!
27. God says that He made all things good...that includes you.  You are so beautiful and precious.  No matter how you feel about your body.
28.  "I love the curves you and your brother added to my body."
29.  Please cry...sometimes its needed, and sometimes it encourages the heart and says your human.
30.  Christian women aren't immune to sin, bad habits, and cliques.  Love on regardless and forgive graciously.
31.  Pursue your goals and think big.  Even if you fail...at least you tried.  "Failure is just feedback."
32.  Be a great friend.
33.  You can't control what others think of you, so let it go and move forward.
34.  Stop for the small things in life.  Soak them up.
35.  Your dad has lots of things to teach you.
36.  Ask lots of questions.  There are so many great things to learn.
37.  Love waits.
38.  Patience is never wasted.
39.  Don't just Instagram your life, live it.
40.  Real life is always better than online.
41.  Don't be afraid of a broken heart, you will learn so much.
42.  I'm more interested in your growth than in your happiness.
43.  Challenge yourself.
44.  Jesus loves you more than anybody on this earth ever will.  Once you grasp that...love becomes eternal.
45.  Womanhood is a gift.
46.  You are never too old to play.
47.  I will never be tired of being your mother.
48.  I will always come when you call.
49.  You will always be my little girl.
50.  Writing handwritten notes means more to people than you will ever know!

Well, my family is about to embark on a new chapter in our lives, and I honestly can tell you I am at peace.  It feels really good.  Unusually good.  Lots of people have asked what we are doing next, where we are going, etc.  Honestly, I don't have much of an answer.  Our original intent was to build a house in Tega Cay...we put down some cash for a property, but after much thought and driving around, praying, we just didn't feel at peace.  Strange...as it would have been a great setup.  Great neighborhood, great amenities, great school, great everything!  But, there was some unsettling feelings that both Wayne and I were feeling separately, and when we came together during one of our Saturday night date nights  we both just said we need to pull this idea...we just weren't feeling peace.

I will admit, I was a bit frustrated by this feeling because it would have made things a little easier with school and such as registration for Kindergarten starts tomorrow for Paige, but until we have a contract on a house, we cannot register her!  We have a plan B in place, as we weren't even sure if we would sell our house in time, so we feel peace there, as it is a GREAT plan B.  But, I never knew how stressful house hunting could be too...especially when you want to make the right LONG-TERM decision for your family!

Have I ever mentioned I am slightly a "planner, ocd, perfectionist" type of person?  Yeah, well...I try and steer my urges in honorable to God directions, but my control tendencies can often get the best of me, especially when I just don't know!  I'm usually ok with things if I can see or project the future outcome.  Can I say just out loud, that God is really pushing me with this, but even still, I feel at peace!  I haven't really shared this with many people, mostly because it is between me and God, but one of my New Year's resolutions was to practice being quick to listen and slow to speak.  What I really think this has meant for me is to be prayerful in all things.  In fact, I have looked back at our last couple of years as a small family, and prayer and patience has been such a HUGE part of our lives, almost a lifeline.  So, although, slightly reluctant, I needed to release my anxiety about our next steps to Jesus.  Because I was anxious!

So as we leave Hamilton Green today, I know my first steps are to be utterly grateful to God for providing such a great place to live, a roof over our heads, a safe haven for my kids, some amazing memories, all of the guests from the seminary that have stepped through our door to stay with us, the missionaries that we were honored to host because we had the room to host them for short and long-term, the friendships, and just a starting place as Wayne and I were merely newly weds when we bought this house.  What a journey right?

Hang tight, because I KNOW God does amazing things to people that wait for his timing, as hard as it is to wait, to be patient, to NOT know anything, I know He will show up, and He will blow us/you away!

What have you had to wait for and be patient for, and then God has blown you away?  Or...maybe you are waiting too?   I would love to know!

I realize it has been 6 years since this day.  Many people have forgotten that we even had a son before our other 2 sweet children.  But, I can't forget, I still feel the hurt, the pain, the anxiety that went with our particular situation.  I still remember the doctors visit, the ultrasound when the nurse did not say anything or point the monitor in our direction.  I still remember the doctor telling us the condition that he had was one that was gradually making him die inside my belly and that he would not survive much longer.  I remember Wayne and I having to make this tough decision that I can't believe I had to make.  Crying and throwing up in the parking lot of the doctors office....and then the day came, the horrific day, and I will spare you many details, but then he arrived, dead in my arms, but so alive in spirit, I could feel it!  And...I held him, and although deeply hurting inside, I remember feeling peace too!  It was so strange.



He was our first child.  I had no idea at that point if I would be blessed with more children.  Although assured by the doctor that this was a mere fluke.  He had what was called Potter's Syndrome (I found comfort and met some great women on the link provided) which is a condition when something during the formation of the baby the kidneys never develop.  Rare condition, but yet so real to me knowing that a human can survive with only 1 kidney but not 0.  So we delivered our sweet son, and walked out with a box full of treasured material, but yet I never imagined I would leave the hospital empty handed.  I agree with a sweet friend of mine, who lost a son on the same day, said there is a numbness that God uses to protect our heart from some really deep hurt.  The numbness lasted at the funeral home, then signing the papers at the funeral home, but then the day came to pick up his remains and I remember I couldn't do it.  I couldn't see the funeral home or step inside even to pick up my own son.  My mom volunteered to do it, and I was so grateful.  I remember the day like it was yesterday when she pulled in the driveway.  Throughout this whole experience, I was never angry at God, definitely upset because I missed him, I wanted to get to know him and it was frustrating but never angry.

Fast forward six years later.  I have two beautiful children, healthy as can be.  Lively, full of spirit, and some amazing qualities that I just tear up thinking about.  I didn't know why all of that happened on February 21, 2007, but I remember trusting God with my whole heart that He would use it to do something amazing.  I remember asking specifically for it, because the hurt was so deep, that if something good didn't come of it, I would have felt it was for nothing.  The hard part is not knowing what good will come of it, and maybe never knowing.  It is this thing called having faith that there is something far greater than we could ever imagined with the story.  That was what kept me going, persevering  and continuing to believe, that there is a bigger picture, that I may not understand, but I have to trust the one true God to make use of it.  My pain from missing him is still there, but I admit time does heal the broken heart.  That experience, has made me who I am today, who I am to my children, to my husband.  I am more compassionate to loss, more loving to other mommies who lose babies, and I have a strong desire to share our story when God sees fit.

This is our daughter sitting by the stone that we got our son when someone gave us a dogwood in his memory.

I look back at how God  has used our story, and some I have no idea and will never know (its ok with me), but one of the ways is our daughter, who would not be here if our sweet son had made it.  Her life wouldn't exist.  You see, we conceived her on his original due date.  And...I know God has a purpose for her life! God has also put so many women in my life to connect with on this level, and I cherish those relationships like family.

Oh how I miss Jacob.  I miss holding him, and I miss his sweet fingers on mine.  But his little life made an impact.  And, I pray the story will continue to bring God glory!

For his birthday I decided to make a free print  in honor of his life and a friend of mine's two sons.  I don't make prints normally...so you won't see a blog full of them or an etsy shop, but please feel free to download this print as a birthday present from me!

Guest Blog Post by:  Elizabeth Haen 

2011 was a tough year for our little family, my 3 year old daughter, my husband and I.  We spent the year waiting.  Waiting for the baby we were hoping to adopt, that is, waiting for to be approved, waiting for the phone to ring with opportunity, waiting for either the phone call to scramble to the next step or the email that always started with the same d*mn sentence (So and So has chosen a family and unfortunately it wasn't yours…blah, blah, blah…it didn't really matter past the first sentence), waiting for babies you already loved and thought you would raise to be born, waiting to recover when you learn you won’t, waiting to feel like you can face people again, waiting to start the whole process over again, waiting to find out if the ending to your story was a happy one. 

Its not quite 2013...but I wanted to do one last post before the clock turned.  It will be short and sweet.  My life is meant to give away!  I have been blessed with opportunities, and even tough circumstances so that I can share with others all that God is doing in my life.  I am looking forward to making a writing commitment to myself this year.  To share, to converse, to love on each person that God puts in my path.  I hope some of those people are through here, and I hope I get to shake hands, and hug others.




To make sure that what I am doing, what I am writing, and that what I give is bigger than me, I have teamed up with a large group of women called The Influence Network.  They all are fantastic!  There is no doubt each of them have a glimpse of life to share with you!  I hope you venture out to let their voices speak to your heart.  I certainly cannot wait to read, and explore and allow their words to soak in to my heart and allow God to speak to me through them.  Please also check this network out on Twitter @InfluenceNet #InfluenceNet and on Facebook.

Love to everyone for an amazing New Year!

Jamie

So, I thought I would write a brief blurb about how my life has changed since I had kids.  I have never had a "normal" job.  9-5 just isn't my forte' ask my previous supervisors.  They would be honest with you and me!  But, when my husband and I decided to have kids you probably wouldn't have convinced me that I would be one to stay at home with them.  Partly because the people around me sent their kids to the preschool that was in the place that I worked, so they could see them any time, pick them up at a decent hour, then spend the rest of their day with their children.  Seemed like the right way to go for me too. 

However, things change, times change, jobs change, lots of change going on, and it became more apparent, that the hours and time that I enjoyed working just would not mesh with a family.  I was the 70 hour/week workaholic and probably not in the good sense.  Boundaries to me, were a not in line with what they should be about.  I had a hard time saying no.  In fact, I was crazy enough to apply to get my PhD after graduate school (I did get in) just to have something to do and to possibly continue my writing.  It was rediculous now that I look back on it.  But, I was in my twenties and my husband and I were living in a small town home struggling to get by so to have big dreams seemed the only right thing to do. 

THEN...the actual kid came!  My daughter was born, and weeks before (actually, just a few weeks) we decided that I wanted to stay at home with her and get a feel for this motherhood thing.  It did help that I started this little business on the side that I could do from home, thanks to my older brother who needed some administrative help.  This virtual assistant idea bloomed into a larger idea and a mission that would far surpass anything I had ever thought of.  And...to be frank, I clearly heard the mission and the vision from God myself and I wish to this day I would have wrote down His exact words.  Now, I can just summarize the message.

As the caretaker of two little children on this earth, I have lately been contemplating what life would be like with a third.  It has been a hard and emotional place to come to because there are so many variables.  One, being my husband, who is fairly certain two is good for him.  However, he will preface, that if we were in a different financial position, he would be more open.  Which has led me to ask many questions, obviously. 

But, for me the variables are my difficult pregnancies, my anxiousness during my pregnancies with the loss of our first child, and then the responsibilities that come after they are born.  Especially, since I do work and want to continue to work.  It is a frustrating place to be in because I LOVE having children, love them to pieces, and I particularly LOVE when they are the age they are now.  So, one more to me, makes me think the family would be complete.  And, I have an uneasy spirit about where we are now.  For those of you that know me, it translates to a lot going on in the processing of my thoughts, feelings, and even my prayer life with the Lord. 

Lately, I have just prayed for the Lord to make it abundantly clear to the both of us.  Like, change our hearts miraculously.  If it is my heart that needs to be changed, then I want the spirit of contentment to override what I am feeling right now.  If we are to have another one, the Lord is going to have to miraculously speak into my husband's heart to give it a go!  And, of course I would follow. 

I need Scripture to hold my place while I am waiting for some kind of clarity.  The Lord always speaks to me in quiet, and when I am writing, so I ask you to pray with me as I find time to write and journal about this fragile topic.